One of the sneakiest little “mind viruses” that MANY people suffer from is the addiction to manifesting needless struggle in their lives.
To some degree we all suffer from this.
Some people more than others.
I know I’ve done this to myself many times in the past, and it wasn’t until I became aware of what I was doing to myself that I finally stopped manifesting this pointless, needless need for struggle.
Let me explain what I mean by this.
Have you ever been at a party with a bunch of friends you haven’t seen for a while, just catching up on what’s new with people, and someone asks someone about a trip they went on recently…
… and then that person says something along the lines of “Oh-ma-Gawd, did you hear what happened to us?!” …
… and then they proceed to tell a tale that sounds a little bit like this…
“Okay, so you won’t believe what happened. Here we were, on our first trip to Mexico. It all started when on our way to the airport George realized that he had forgotten his passport, and we were already half way to the airport, so we had to turn around and head all the way back.
But then, as we’re heading back home, we catch a flat tire so we have to pull over to change the tire – right? And THEN, we realize that the spare tire in the back is FLAT as well!
So then, we start freaking out, and then George starts flagging down cars as they’re driving by, to see if we could catch a ride with someone, while I’m on the phone trying to reach anyone to see if someone could help us out – but nobody was available because everyone was at work.
So then George finally flags down this car and the guy agrees to give him a ride home and back for $50! So he catches a ride with this guy, goes home, grabs his passport, and also the spare tire from MY car which was parked in the drive way.
He heads back TO the car, where I’m waiting for him, with all these people staring at us on the side of the road. I was so embarrassed!
Then, George gets dropped off, we throw the spare on the car, and we proceed to the airport, but now instead of being 3 hours early for our flight, we’ve got 15 minutes before the flight leaves…”
… and as they’re telling you this story about their trip, the craziness continues!
All kinds of weird shit manifests, like the plane loses a wheel, the luggage gets lost, security requests a strip search, some lady at the airport spills her coffee on their luggage, aliens invade earth, World War III begins…
… and 45 minutes later the story finally ends with the people surviving the ordeal and making it home in one piece…
Have you ever heard one of these stories?
Have you ever TOLD one of these stories to people?
Do you know what I’m talking about?
For some people, every DAY is one of these crazy stories where all kinds of weird shit happens to them that is just totally out of this world, and in the end they always end up victorious!
They emerge as the HERO of the day, not letting life take them down!
And each time this happens, they LOVE telling everyone their newest “STORY”.
You want to know my latest story?
I’ll tell you.
I went out for dinner with my wife today. We went to a restaurant, had a nice meal, then went to the mall where I found the exact shirts I was looking for and got a $20 discount without asking for it.
Then on the way home I realized I had to get gas, found a gas station really easily, got gas at a good price, and stopped for ice cream at Menchies and it was delicious.
The End!
THAT is how life SHOULD BE – simple, and in the effortless FLOW of the Universe.
THOSE are the stories you should be telling, and THOSE are the stories you should be applauding…
… not all the stories of STRUGGLE and “Oh Ma Gawd you won’t believe ALL the things that went wrong for me today” type of stories.
The more stories of struggle you tell everyone, the MORE struggle you manifest in your life.
The reason why is because you’re addicted to the feeling of being this self-created HERO in your stories of struggle.
You manifest all kinds of stupid unnecessary shit in your life, just so that you can find crazy ways to overcome it, and so that later you can tell everyone who’s willing to listen what a HERO you are for overcoming that crap.
We’ve all done it.
I know I’ve done it in the past.
Once I became aware of this, however, I started to realize that I don’t NEED that anymore.
I don’t NEED to be this “Hero” who first manifested a bunch of stupid shit, just so that later he could overcome it and “save the day” in my own life.
It’s SO MUCH more fun living life in the flow of ease and simplicity and without the need for constant struggle.
Pause for a moment and think about the last time you got together with some friends at a party or some get-together.
Was there someone there who told a story of great struggle and how they overcame it?
BINGO! That’s the example I’m referring to!
Maybe it was even YOU!
If you were the one telling your story of recent struggle, guess what you were doing while telling the story?
You were sending a message out to the Universe basically saying “Universe, I want you to send me MORE of this struggle that I recently had. I want you to send me more and more struggle so that I can find ways to overcome it and so that I can keep telling these crazy stories to my friends and so that I can keep looking like a HERO in front of them. Send more struggle! Send more struggle!”
THAT is what you’re communicating to the Universe.
And by the Law of Attraction THAT is exactly what you’re going to manifest more of…. because its the LAW!
You cannot be telling your stories of struggle and woe, and swimming around in that vibration of struggle in your imagination as you tell the story, and NOT manifest more struggle.
You also can’t be listening to people tell their stories of struggle and engrossing yourself in their stories without attracting a little bit more struggle into your life as well.
This is why it’s important to try to stay away from that kind of drama and struggle.
It’s totally fine to listen to someone’s INSPIRING story where they share some initial struggles they may have gone through in their life when that same story is then filled with 90% – 95% POSITIVE and INSPIRING things that happened to them after that.
A story like that will HELP you in your life because while you’re listening to it, you’ll be engrossing yourself in the vibration of INSPIRATION and POSITIVITY 90% – 95% of the time.
But if the stories you’re listening to and telling people are 90% – 95% filled with nothing but struggle, you’re just going to manifest MORE of that struggle in your life.
Try this…
… try going on a “Struggle Story Fast” for 90 days…
… for the next 90 days, make a commitment to yourself to NOT LISTEN to people telling you stories of struggle…
… the minute you hear someone start telling you a story of struggle, about the crazy weird stuff that happened to them recently, just interrupt them and find a way to get out of that situation…
… and also, for the next 90 days don’t TELL any stories of struggle yourself either…
Crazy stuff MAY happen to you. You may go through some struggles that you manifested. And that’s okay.
But you don’t need to TELL stories about it afterwards.
Just get through it, write about it in your journal if you want to, but then don’t tell anyone else about your struggles.
Stop trying to impress people with your stories of struggles and how you are this HERO who overcomes all the odds.
YOU’RE the one manifesting the struggle in your life because we all manifest 100% of everything in our reality, so all struggle is self-manifested.
So if that’s true, what kind of HERO do you really think you’re convincing people that you are by telling your stories of struggle?
Everyone you THINK you’re impressing with your HERO stories is just thinking “You manifested that yourself in your life you idiot!” … so they’re not impressed anyways.
Just for the next 90 days, don’t tell any stories like these.
Instead, start telling stories of EASE and SIMPLICITY and manifesting FLOW in your life.
Tell those stories to yourself, and if anyone asks you how things are going, tell them your stories of ease.
Most likely they probably won’t be too interested, as most people PREFER to listen to stories of “weird shit” and “drama” and “holy crap you won’t believe what happened to me”, but that’s okay…
… you don’t need your life to be a source of drama like that…
If you want drama, go see a movie or something. 🙂
Try this out for 90 days and notice how things in your life start to shift.
You may start to notice very quickly that things start to flow for you much more easily and with more simplicity.
It really is magical if that is what you CHOOSE to CREATE in your life.
I have read this concept or at least, similar ones for a few years now and I believe it to be incredibly valid. But, I need help. My situation can’t be that unique, but I’ve never seen it addressed. I perform as a stand up comic.That’s one of those careers that bleed over into real life too…I see situations as amusing and sometimes milk them for what they’re worth. I can’t really avoid not sharing those kinds of stories. Am I just setting myself up for a life time of conflict our does the universe know it’s all for my living and it will just give me amusing conflicts without the drama? The audience won’t laugh at your kind of day…( nothing personal 😉 )
Hi David, yes comics do have this “issue”. As an empath/intuitive I can really feel how people feel especially in close proximity, so when I went to see one of my favorite comics live one time I realized just how unhappy / miserable he really is (energetically speaking), while making everyone else laugh. This is of course because he draws a lot of material from that feeling as it’s easier for people to connect with misery / sadness than other feelings.
Having said that, it goes back to creating a “Perfect Client Profile” for yourself for your audience. If you decide that your target market/audience member is someone who ISN’T miserable in their life, you could potentially start creating content which connects with people at that level. For example Russell Peter’s doesn’t really target the “Life is miserable” target… he more targets “People of all different races and ethnic backgrounds all do stupid / funny shit and I’m going to point it all out”… so he essentially makes fun of all the different races and says the shit that nobody else can say because they’ll be called a racist. 🙂
I was watching another comic on Netflix, and his jokes were definitely more “intellectual” than based on sadness / misery. I personally found them hilarious. Like one joke he said was “You know how when people are about to get in a car, they yell SHOTGUN to reserve the front passenger seat? I think people should yell SHOTGUN when they’re eating rice and about to sneeze.”
I don’t know why, but that made me laugh so hard. It’s not based on “Let me tell you how crappy my life is” type comedy, but rather on painting pictures of funny things in the mind. Like the image of a person having a mouth full of rice and then sneezing and it going all over the place cracks me up.
Seinfeld is kind of based on misery I think, no? But Ellen and Jimmy Fallon not so much, right?
I think it depends on your style of comedy and which parts of a person’s emotions you’re trying to connect to.
The OTHER option would be to find ways to be able to tell stories of “Woe” while at the same time FEELING GOOD NOW.
It’s not so much what the story is about, but the vibration you’re “putting out” while telling the story. A lot of people manifest CRAP because while they’re telling their stories of WOE, they’re actually FEELING like crap.
There was a video I saw on YouTube from Esther Hicks/Abraham where an actress asked a similar question. She was asking how she can be a good actress and play some of these parts where it is part of her part to feel sad, or cry, or to act like she has suffered a great loss, or something like that, without manifesting those energies into her real life.
I honestly can’t remember now what Esther Hicks/Abraham said to answer that question but I believe it was about recognizing and developing the ability to ACT one way, while FEELING/VIBRATING another way.
Wow, Paul, what an interesting perspective…I’m gonna start paying more attention to what I hear and say; thank you!
I fully subscribe to this thinking Paul. There’s a company I have been doing business with for years. One of the employees remarked that in all the years I’ve been visiting, she always sees me happy. She said she couldn’t live her life without some sort of drama. I asked her why not get her drama from entertainment like a movie and she flat out said no. It had to exist in her own life. I guess ease and simplicity doesn’t excite her…..yet 🙂
Hehehehe…. YUP. SO many people are addicted to the drama. When they don’t have struggle and drama in their life, they go out there and create it! And then of course they complain that all this stuff keeps happening to them as if they are victims. 🙂
Thanks for writing this blog post. I am starting a 90 day challenge today. 🙂
Since starting this fast I already have seen it work! Thanks Paul for revealing this.
Great job Chris! Keep going!
Great post! I, too, do not partake in the story telling and woe is me. I try and spend my time with positive energy and positive self talk. Thank you, Paul, for the inspiring post:)
You’re welcome Ellen.